A Case of Mistaken Identity

Anyone who knows my oldest knows that he is extremely shy.  He wasn't always this bad but as he has gotten older it seems to be getting worse.  When strangers talk to him he usually puts his head down and smiles and doesn't reply.  Sometimes he is even that way with with people he does know.

Well, last week once again we went to family camp in Arkansas.  We had a blast, especially the kids.  One evening we decided to go to Hot Springs to check my email and get a bite to eat.  We had to go to the main building of the camp to sign up for the next day activities before we left.

We had signed up for the next day actives and we were walking out the door when we realized that my oldest wasn't with us.  About two minutes later he flew (and I mean flew) out the front door.  I figured he thought we had left him.  We went back to our cabin to get our stuff to go to town when he started.

He seemed really nervous and very antsy.  He said, "Mom, I got to tell you something that happened."  I said, "ok, what?"  He said, "never mind I will tell you in the car."  So I said, "no tell me now."  This went on for about five minutes until  I demanded him tell me what happened.  I was getting nervous now because he seemed terrified.  I was thinking the worst, did someone say something to him, did someone hurt him?

Then finally he spit it out.  "I thought he was dad,"  he finally said.  I was confused.  Then after the mumbling I finally made out what he was trying to say.  Apparently he thought one of the staff was his dad from behind and he went up to him and hugged him.  The guy was sitting where we usually sit and my son was playing with his friends so he wasn't paying attention to where we were.  When the guy said, "hey buddy."  He realized that it wasn't his dad and proceeded in flight mode.

He was crying saying he was so embarrassed.  I explained to him that the staff work with kids all summer long and are used to that.  He wanted me to go explain to the staff what happened but he didn't remember who he hugged he left so fast he never saw the guys face.

I couldn't help but laugh, it was too funny.  I am guilty of teasing him about it for the rest of the time we were there.  At first he would be upset but after a few days he just laughed it off.  I told him to go hug one of our friends that was there so that they would just think he was a hugger.  Of course he said no to that.

These kids always keep me laughing.  What to do with them??

Lily's Village and Mine (Guest Post by Heather Von St. James)

 

I never knew what a village I had around me until I underwent one of the most joyful and one of the most difficult experiences of my life. When my beloved daughter Lily was born on August 4th, 2005, my friends and my family surrounded me. My parents, my husband’s relatives and our many friends came together to celebrate this joyous occasion. None of use knew how serious things were going to get in just a few months.


When Lily was about three and a half months old, I went back to work, but I quickly detected that something was wrong. I was tired all the time, and I couldn’t quite get a good breath. I had no energy, and finally, I went to visit a doctor. It took plenty of tests and then we got the diagnosis.


As a child, I had been unexpectedly exposed to asbestos, and now around 30 years later, the results were apparent. On November 21, 2005, I was diagnosed with malignant pleural mesothelioma, an aggressive cancer that attacks the lungs and which is caused by asbestos.


Without treatment, I was told I would have only 15 months to live. When I looked at my husband’s face and that of my new daughter, I knew that I had to do whatever it took to survive. There could be no giving up, and so we made the decision to pursue aggressive treatment. My husband and I flew to Boston, where on February 2nd, I had extrapleural pneumenectomy surgery. This means that one of my lungs was removed, and then, after 18 days in the hospital and 2 months rest, I underwent chemotherapy and radiation.


This would not have been possible if my village hadn’t swooped into the rescue. It’s funny; some of the people we thought we could rely on weren’t there, and plenty we barely knew stepped right up. While we were in Boston, my parents took Lily, and they performed marvelously. They both work, and when they couldn’t be around, their community stepped in. Their church group kept them going with lots of love and support, and they were more than willing to step in to help when necessary.


Though it sometimes hurt to think about my darling daughter doing so many firsts without me, I was comforted by the love that surrounded her, and also by the pictures and emails of her development that my parents sent. I was kept updated on her progress and the nurses loved checking out her picture.


As a family that was far bigger than I thought it would be, we have been through some amazingly rough times. However, as I always say, “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.” Even while I was going through the toughest time in my life, there was still plenty to eat!


Life is so rich, and when I was at my darkest moment, I still knew that I had the love of all the people around me.


To visit Heather's blog go to http://www.mesothelioma.com/blog/authors/heather/

Mother of the Year

Yep, that's me, mother of the year.  (sarcasm)

Well, the little one started school last week.  Yes it is a little late in the year but it is more like a "mothers day out" K3 program.  Its only twice a week from 9:00 to 2:30.  Next year for K4 she will go full time.  We wanted to give her a little exposure to a school atmosphere hoping maybe it would give her a little incentive to want to learn more.  She is a little stubborn if you can't tell from my past posts.  If it doesn't interest her then is it certainly not worth her time.

Anyway she was so excited.  We went out and got her some new shoes, a few new outfits and last but certainly not least a brand new lunch box.  Can you guess which one she was the most excited about?  So, her first day and she is beyond excited, she got up early, got dressed before I even left to go to work.  I just couldn't wait to hear about her day.

I got a call from my husband about 3:00.  He said that when the sitter picked her up she was a little upset.  She was quietly sitting rubbing her eyes.  When I was told what happened I almost cried myself.

You see after they take their nap the teacher passes out suckers.  Well on her sheet I listed "no candy".  But I had every intention of sending her with  her own.  Yes, it is still candy but the kind that I buy I like to think is the lesser of the two evils.  It completely slipped my  mind.  I had a busy weekend so when I was making sure that I had everything for her for her first day I completely forgot the suckers.  Go me!!!

I was so upset,  I ruined her first day of school.  She was the only kid left out.  I started thinking, how can I make this better???  I know, I will make sure she gets a sucker at home and then later bring her out for some ice cream (because that is so  much better than candy (sarcasm)).  Hey, I had to redeem myself ;)

By the time I had gotten home she was fine.  She was so excited about her day, but she did make it a point to tell me that she didn't get a sucker.  I explained to her that it was my fault, that I told the teacher no candy and that I would be sending some of her suckers for her to have after nap time.  She understood and was fine with that.  Needless to say I didn't ruin school for her, maybe just the last 30 minutes of her first day.  But I think now that is all forgotten.  She absolutely loves school, in fact she wants to go everyday.  She is getting so big.

And I must say that I am quite impressed by this school.  The fact that they stuck to what I put on her sheet and respected my wishes, kudos to them!!!

Finally!!!!

I apologize for not writing in a while. My New Year resolution is to get back on track.  So what better way then to update you all on my littles ones progress.

It is official!!!  My little one is officially potty trained.  It has been about a little over a month without any hiccups.  She is a "BIG GIRL", that is besides that fact that she is almost four. 

It just clicked one day and that was it.  I guess she finally decided it was time.  I was wondering if this day would ever come.  After months, better yet a year and a half, the day has arrived.  I am so proud of her, yet sad at the same time.  As wonderful as it is that she is potty trained, it also means that she is growing up.  My baby is not a baby anymore.

But I am really enjoying the money saved on not buying diapers ;)

Miserable

Right now my 8 year old is walking around the house whining and crying even sitting on the floor to show how upset he is.  Why do you ask, is my child so miserable?  Well he was using a hole puncher to punch a hole in a calendar that he wanted to hang on his wall.  Instead of asking one of us to help him, he did it by himself, put the hole in the wrong place and now is upset because he doesn't know if he can get another one.

It is times like these that I understand why some  parents lose their minds.  All I can do is laugh, as if this dramatic display is going to somehow help him.  Oh, he is go to bed very soon, 8:30 pm on a Friday night.  I think so.  And yes,10 minutes later same song different verse, definitely bed time. Now let me get this child to bed before I hurt him ;) How can I tell when my child is tired and needs to go to bed?  They are miserable, completely miserable.

I am getting the feeling that this may not be an easy task.   Good  night!!

My Third Actual Blogger Award

I am so bad at this.  Acceptance speeches and finding the time to write these days.  But about two weeks ago I got my third Blogger Award.  Yes, third,  my second I got so side tracked that I completely forgot to thank Ting for my award (you are the best girl, and I didn't forget about you).

So I received my third blogger award from a new blogger friend and follower Biertjuh (Jan) from the Netherlands (that is what makes these awards so awesome, getting them from someone a world away).  So I will do my best to follow the rules and pass this award along.

First things first, list 7 things about myself: 
1.     I love to write (that was an easy one)

2.     I have actually started working on my first screenplay (it will probably take 10 years to finish;)

3.     I am not good about making a list about myself ;)

4.     It is taking me about 20 minutes to come up with this list and it is only 7 things

5.     When I am feeling bad, I think of something silly that my kids did and it brings an instant smile to my face (people just think I am crazy, smiling for no reason)

6.     I am the oldest of three kids, and have all the responsibilities of being the oldest,  used to think it was a curse, but know not so much
7.     Last but not least,  I am crazy, no really I am ;)

oh yeah,  I am a real procrastinator (but don't tell anybody, it's not like it is obvious or something;)

so I am supposed to  pass this on to newly discovered blogs but the problem is I have been out of the loop for a few months. Due to a lot of personal issues I have been occupied (I am sure you can tell from the fact that I haven't posted in awhile)  I just may have to update and amend this post to include my successors,  I told you I suck at this.  There are just so many amazing blogs and bloggers out there that I want to list them properly.

Thanks again Jan!!  This means more to me than you know !!!


 

Parenthood- List Part 1

Things that I have realized from being a parent. (please keep this list away from all children, otherwise they will know all of my secrets ;)

1.  Most of the time, I have no idea what I am doing
2.  Sometimes you have to choose your battles
3.  Structure and Rules without Love is worthless
4.  I'm not lazy, I am just exhausted
5.  Whats the point if you can't spoil them at a least a little??
6.  Bribery is almost always necessary ;)
7.  I rocked both of my kids to sleep,  it didn't spoil them (maybe temporarily), but once they are big, you can't do it anymore
8.  They are only little once (so hold them, rock them, kiss them, love them as much as possible before they are too big, because by then you are lucky is they acknowledge you)
9.  You can't get back missed moments (so always cherish them)
10.  Every child is different, what works with one doesn't always work with the other
11.  Learn their currency, it always helps
12.  Sometimes it takes all I have to keep a straight face when disciplining my kids
13.  Apologize for your mistakes,  it shows imperfectness and humility
14.  I am your parent, not your friend, I will be your friend when you are older
15.  I don't think any parent has it all together,  its impossible, some are just better at making it look like they do,  so don't feel inferior as a parent if you don't, believe me you are not alone
16.  Sometimes I want them to stay little, other times I wish they would hurry up and grow up
17.  Don't always focus on the negative, if they feel like they can never do anything right, then they will never try to
18.  Always acknowledge their accomplishments no matter how small,  it builds their self esteem and shows that you are paying attention
19.  No one told me that I would love them so much

God must really love me because He gave two amazing kids that I know I don't deserve.

(I made this a part 1 of a list because I am sure that as I learn my list will get longer and longer)